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The GeekMoms Podcast #22 Are You Mom Enough?

The recent Time magazine article about Attachment Parenting had a cover photo of a woman breastfeeding her 3-year-old son as well as the headline “Are You Mom Enough?” To say it caused a bit of a controversy is putting it mildly. My fellow GeekMom Andrea Schwalm wrote a fantastic post about how what was disturbing wasn’t so much the picture, but the antagonistic headline. Listen in as we discuss how each and every one of us is absolutely mom enough.

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2 Responses to “The GeekMoms Podcast #22 Are You Mom Enough?”

  1. CSV says:

    I'm behind on my podcasts, and am listening to this episode as I type this. I stopped going to the G'M website before the "Mom Enough" post came out… in part because of the "feeling judged" issue you brought up. I'm a very sensitive person, which makes me very good at what I do for a living (being a mom, being a writer for children, being a teacher) – but it makes it very hard, sometimes, to interact with other moms. Many G'M posters homeschool – which leads, often enough, to disparaging comments about public schools. I know, on a conscious level, that none of these moms are targeting me, personally, but it's a slap in the face, sometimes… I do my best to reach every child. So do most of the teachers I know. And yet, we feel held accountable for the idiocy of the minority…

    It's interesting to hear you and Andrea talk about the divisive culture of momhood. I suppose I knew, on some level, that all moms feel other moms are judging them. Unfortunately… whenever like minds come together in one place, it seems that the barriers between us become stronger rather than breaking down. I came to G'M looking to talk to other moms about comic books and fantasy novels, but my posts went largely unanswered. I went to the articles, and found myself feeling apart. Different. Not "geek mom" enough.

    It's easy to advise people not to try to justify their choices as moms… but I wish that we, as moms, could have more conversations that wouldn't make our insecurities come out. Yes, we are geek MOMS. But we are "geek moms" because we love science, or comics, or sff, or "geek culture.". The aspects of the G'M website I've loved most focus on those things… And I adore the podcast for the same reasons. Listening to the podcast about Pokemon, I didn't once think about the Mommy Wars, stay-home vs work-away, homeschool vs public school vs magnet or private or kibbutz. Thank you for that. And for this podcast, too.

  2. Thank you for taking the time to write such a heartfelt comment.

    This is definitely an issue that hits people very hard and in so many different ways. The homeschool vs public is one that really gets people going. My kids are in public school and I adore the teachers. They are dedicated, caring people and I have no qualms about sending the kids to school each day. But, as a Mom, I've felt the same criticism because I don't homeschool or send them to private school. I can only imagine how difficult it is to be a teacher and hear those arguments.

    I'm really sorry to hear you didn't feel like you were "geek mom" enough, as I know one of the things the site strives for is to give every mom no matter how geeky or what their specific interests are, a place to call home.

    Behind the scenes, we are a very diverse group and each and every one of us appreciates all our readers for their own points of view and what they bring to a conversation.

    I'm glad the podcast provides you with a "geek mom" angle that you can relate to and gives you a bit of an escape from the Mommy Wars.

    Thanks again for listening and please feel free to comment or email me anytime at

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